1 Peter 3:13-14


I Peter 3:13-14
(A Bible Study Led by Dr. Larry Reynolds)
September 19, 2013
 
1.      An anonymous writer penned this words:
God hath not promised Skies ever blue, Flower-strewn pathways always for you. God hath not promised Sun without rain, Joy without sorrow, Peace without pain
2.      Most of you know from personal experience the truth of those words... As we struggle to make sense out of the difficult times which invariably invade our lives, there are two extremes in thinking which we must avoid...on one hand, we must avoid the extreme which says--
--God sends suffering our way because it is good for us ...some people seem to think that everything which happens in this world is the direct result of God’s will and that if we suffer it is because God wills us to suffer...but that view of suffering fails to take into account that we live in a fallen world...because humanity has rebelled against God, the world in which we now live is not the ideal place God intended at creation...and I believe that some things happen in this world which break God’s heart just as they break our hearts...so must avoid the extreme of saying that God sends suffering to our lives...on other hand, must avoid the extreme that says...
--God’s people are immune from suffering ...some people seem to think if a person is really spiritual, faithful to God, living in God’s will, that person will never suffer...Billy Graham once said, “Nowhere does the Bible teach that Christians are exempt from the tribulations and natural disasters that come upon the world.” [Illustrations A-Z]
3.      The book of I Peter has a lot to say to us about dealing with suffering...as I’ve told you, the letter was written to Christians scattered throughout Asia Minor who were on the verge of experiencing tremendously brutal government sponsored persecution...one of the reasons Peter wrote this letter (and many scholars believe it was Peter’s the primary reason for writing) was to instruct those Christians on how to deal with suffering...the words “suffer” and “suffering” are used 16 times in the 5 chapters of I Peter...in this session we are going to begin looking at a part of 1 Peter that has much to teach us about making sense out of suffering...look at I Peter 3:13-18...(text)
 
T.S. - There are two broad categories of suffering which God’s people experience in this world...


·         Suffering which comes as a result of living in a natural, fallen world...illnesses, accidents, pains, death are just parts of this natural world order...those who live in this world will invariably be impacted by those things...
·         Suffering which comes as a result of our identification with Christ... at certain points in history, and even today in some parts of our world, Christians are physically and emotionally persecuted...
I Peter focuses primarily on this second kind of suffering--suffering as a result of being identified with Christ..however, the advice for dealing with suffering given to us in this book is applicable to all types of suffering...want you to see some things this part of God’s Word tells us about making sense out of suffering...
 
I.       Viewing suffering in the perspective of all of life helps us to make sense out of it
1.      One of the great dangers that times of suffering brings to God’s people is that such times can cause us to have a distorted view of life...such times can cause us to lose sight of the big picture of life as we focus only on one piece of life...we must never forget, especially in time of trial and suffering, that there is more to our existence that what we experiencing at any particular point in life and there is more to our existence than what we experience in this world...
2.      Think that is basic point Peter was trying to make in vv.13-14... reminds us in those verses of two precious truths which will help us keep the sufferings of life in proper perspective...
--v.13 reminds us that if we are truly God’s people (that is what is meant by the phrase “zealous for what is good”), then no-one and nothing can permanently harm us...doesn’t mean there aren’t things in life which can cause us great pain and heartache on a temporary basis...but does mean that in the over-all scheme of things, we have the assurance that in the end everything will work out alright for the true people of God...that’s because no matter what happens in this world, we have the assurance that our ultimate destiny is to spend eternity with God...
--v.14 reminds us that it’s possible to experience blessing in the midst of suffering...what a great statement!...”...even if you should suffer ... you are blessed.”...it’s an amazing, comforting thought that things which would crush and defeat us, God can use to build us up, to bless us...if we really understand that, it can cause us to view suffering from a whole new perspective...instead of crying out in bitterness and anger, “God, why did you let this happen?” we can say in times of suffering, “Father, how can you use this to bless my life and to bless the lives of others?”
 
1.      Ancient story about one of the early church fathers named Eusebius...brought before Roman authority and threatened because he was openly professing to be a Christian...the authority threatened to------Eusebius replied “He needs not fear....”


--confiscate his property (“...fear confiscation who has nothing to lose.”)
--banish him from Rome (“...fear banishment to whom heaven is his country.”)
--torture him (“...fear torments when his body can be destroyed at one blow.”)
--to kill him (“...death which is the only way to set one at liberty from sin and sorrow.”) [Illustrations A-Z]
2.      Remembering to view suffering from the perspective of all of life helps us to better handle it and make sense out of it...
 
II.  Keeping our attention fixed on Christ in times of suffering helps us to make sense of it
1.      Of course, Christians should keep their attention focused on Christ at all times, but it is especially important to do so in times of suffering...the last part of v.14 and first part of v.15 tells us that when suffering comes we should “...not be troubled...” ...instead, at such times we are to “...sanctify [set apart or acknowledge or look to] Christ as Lord in your hearts...”
2.      Now there is good reason for us to do that in times of suffering... the first part of v.18 begins with the phrase “Christ also died...” ...in other words Peter is saying, “Even if the worst happens and your very life is taken from you, you won’t be experiencing anything Christ hasn’t already experienced.”
3.      In the book of Isaiah Jesus is described as “a man of sorrows and acquainted with grief”...in Him who have a Savior who is acquainted with the human experience....He has been to our world...He has walked where we walk...He has experienced life as we experience it...He knows what it’s like to suffer...He has experienced—
--the profound sadness of the death of a loved one...
--the pressing sorrow of being abandoned by all his friends...
--the sting of excruciating physical pain...
--the loneliness and terror of His own death...
4.      And because He’s experienced those things, He knows what it’s like for us in times such as that...and when we turn to Him, He is uniquely qualified to help...He stands beside us...He encourages us...He builds us up..
5.      We must not forget that we have, in Jesus, a Savior who knows all about what we experience in this world...as the song says: “His heart is touched with your feelings, when it seems your heart will would break in two.  Just remember when He prayed alone in the garden, His heart was broken for you.”  No-one understands like Jesus, He really cares for you.  He knows when your heart has been broken, He really cares for you.” And the best thing we can do in the midst of suffering is to keep our attention fixed on Him...then, Peter tells us another thing we can do to make sense out of suffering...
 
III. Allowing Christ to use our suffering for good helps us make sense of it


1.Suffering always brings with it opportunity...in v.15, at which we’re going to look in greater detail in a future study, Peter instructs his readers to be ready to take advantage of the opportunity suffering invariably brings...look at what the verse says: “...always be ready to make a defense to everyone who asks you to give an account for the hope that is in you...”...in others words, Peter is saying that as a result of the way Christians endure suffering with an spirit of hope in God and trust in God, others will naturally want to know about the God we serve...

2.How a person reacts to suffering says a lot about that person’s Christian commitment...now don’t want you to misunderstand what I’m saying, so listen closely...Christians need not be stoic, unfeeling in the face of suffering...it is not wrong or unspiritual for a Christian to grieve and hurt...that’s natural...it’s healthy...it is necessary for our emotional well-being...

3.However, there is a vast difference between those who grieve as though they have no hope and those who grieve with a spirit of hope, confidence, trust, faith in Christ...and all you have to do to see the difference is to spend some time around Christians in the midst of suffering and non-Christians in the midst of suffering... there is all the difference in the world...

4.And one of the strongest arguments for the validity of faith in Christ is how God’s people are able to be victorious in the face of suffering...and Peter reminds us in these verses that one way to make sense out of suffering is to allow Christ to use our experiences of suffering to point others to Him...

                                           CONCLUSION

1.      Began this session by quoting first part of poem written by anonymous author:

God hath not promised Skies ever blue, Flower-strewn pathways always for you. God hath not promised Sun without rain, Joy without sorrow, Peace without pain.

But that’s not all of the poem...the last four lines say this:

But He hath promised Strength from above, Unfailing sympathy, undying love.

2.      How do we find that strength for times of suffering?...I think by following the instructions in this part of God’s Word--

--view suffering within the larger context of life...

--keep our attention fixed on Christ...

--allow God to use your suffering as a witness to Him...

3.      Doing those things will help us make sense out of suffering...

1 Peter 3:10-12


I Peter 3:10-12
(A Bible Study Led by Dr. Larry Reynolds)
September 12, 2013
 
1.      1 Peter 3:10-12 is a natural progression from the previous two verses.  We have seen that in verses 8-9 Peter lists six qualities that should be in the lives of all believers.  Now, in verses 10-12, to underscore the importance of these qualities, Peter directs us to a passage in the Old Testament.  Verses 10-12 are a quote from Psalm 34:12-14.  That says to me that the instructions in these verses are so important that God saw to it that they were included in the Bible twice!  And it is vitally important to our well-being that we understand and follow what is being said in this part of God’s Word.
2.      The older I get the more precious (and limited!) I realize life is.  As James said, our time in this world is like a vapor.  We are here and then we are gone.  And the closer I come to the end of my time in this world, whenever it may be, the more I want to get out of this life.  These verses tell us how to do that.
3.      That is essentially the meaning of the first phrase of verse 10 - “Let him who means to love life and see good days…”  In other words, if you want to get the most out of life, here is how to do it.  It is my conviction that God want us to have the best life possible.  Jesus said in John 10:10, “…I come that you might have life and have it abundantly…”  Following this introductory statement, these verses tell us two things we need to do to get the most out of life.
 


I.       To get the most out of life, we should watch how we talk
1.      Verse 10 tells us that we are to “refrain [our] tongues from evil and [our] lips from guile.”...that is, we are not to speak in such a way that others are injured, beaten down, hurt by what we say...
2.      In the book James, Faith that Works Kent Hughes lists four types of speech which are harmful to others...the first word on his list is--
--gossip - This is something we have made so many jokes about that I fear don't take it seriously enough...need understand a careless, thoughtless word about another person can cause great harm...gossip not just telling something which is untrue; it is telling something which doesn't need to be told...before say anything about any person, need ask ourselves, "Is what I'm about to say going to help or hurt the person involved? Does it really need to be said or is it better left unsaid?"...second word on his list is...
--innuendo - Kent Hughes calls this the cousin of gossip...tells of first mate on ship who was angry at captain for writing beside his name in the ship's log, "First mate drunk today"... so when captain wasn't looking made his own entry into log... wrote, "Captain is sober today"...that’s innuendo...sometimes, not what we say but what we don't say which becomes destructive ...that raised eyebrow or awkward silence or quizzical look can be just as damaging as mis-spoken word...third type of harmful speech on his list is...
--false flattery - Someone has said, "Gossip is saying behind a person's back what you would never say to his or her face; flattery is saying to a person's face what you would never say behind his or her back." (John Blanchard)...the Scripture in numerous places warns of the danger of false flattery...Prov. 28:26b - "...a flattering mouth works ruin."...Jude describes ungodly people with this graphic phrase - "...they speak arrogantly, flattering people for the sake of gaining an advantage."...that doesn't mean we should not compliment others...means we shouldn't do so in an insincere way with impure motives...fourth type of harmful speech identified by Kent Hughes is...
--destructive criticism - Some people seem to delight in pointing out mistakes and shortcomings of others...while they seldom praise, they are quick to criticize...few people have been completely free from the sting of destructive criticism...and few people have been free from the guilt of directing such criticism toward others...need to understand if we are characterized by negative, critical spirit toward others, good indication that we're really not satisfied with our own lives...


3.      And to Kent Hughes’ list of harmful types of speech, I would add two other words...
--profanity - The wide-spread use and acceptance of what once was labeled “gutter language” is an obvious outward sign of the moral decay which has infected our culture... language which at one time was unthinkable has now become commonplace in movies, lyrics to popular songs, and even television...for Christians to use such language reflects poorly on the Lord we serve and for us to talk that way is both disrespectful and harmful to those around us...
--lying - Of all people, God’s people should speak the truth... the Bible teaches that Satan is the father of lies and that Jesus is the truth...we are explicitly instructed in Scripture, “Do not lie to one another...” [Colossians 3:9]...most lies are told in an attempt to minimize or cover-up some problem but invariably they end up making the problem worse and hurting people more...
4.      If we are going to follow the instruction of I Peter 3:10 to “refrain [our] tongues from evil and [our] lips from speaking guile...” then our speech must not be characterized by gossip, innuendo, false flattery, destructive criticism, profanity, or lying...
 
1.      Dr. Curtis Vaughan, one of my seminary professors, tells a story about a little girl who had her arms wrapped around her father’s neck...the girl’s mother noticed that she was looking over her father’s shoulder sticking her tongue out at her brother...the mother said, “Take your arms from around your father’s neck.  You cannot love your father and at the same time stick your tongue out at his son.”
2.      And if we really love God our love for Him will be demonstrated in how we speak to and about others...we should watch how we talk because God is watching us...
 
II.  To get the most out of life, we should watch how we walk


1.      Look at what verse 11 tells us...”And let him turn away from evil and do good; let him seek peace and pursue it.”...if you look carefully at that statement you will see our walk as Christians should involve two things...

 

·         First, we are to make good choices - We are to choose reject evil (that’s what the phrase “turn away” means) and we are to choose to do good instead.  The basic idea behind the statement about “turning away from evil and doing good” is that we are to have the right priorities, the right values in life.  We are to invest our lives in things that matter, things that are eternal, things that will not pass away.  And in a culture like ours, a culture which tends to value things over people, that is often difficult to do.

 

I don’t know the original author of the following quote, but I think it is well said.  Someone has pointed out that when we stand before God…

“God won’t ask ---, but He will ask ---

--what kind of car you drove...how many people you drove who didn’t have transportation.

--the square footage of your house...how many people you welcomed into your home.

--how many material possessions you had...if they dictated your life.

--how many promotions you received...how you promoted others.

--what you did to help yourself...what you did to help others.

--how many friends you had...how many people to whom you were a true friend.

--in what neighborhood you lived...how your treated your neighbors.

God’s people should make good choices in life.  That is one thing it means to watch how we walk.

 

·         Secondly, we are to live in harmony with others - The last part of v.11 says we are to “...seek peace and pursue it...”  This is a reminder

--to be peace makers not trouble makers...

--to bring people together rather than driving them apart...

--to be a calming influence on those around us rather than stirring people up to conflict and strife...

At least three times in the New Testament we are commanded to “…live in peace…”  with one another.  One of those commands comes directly from Jesus, Himself (see Mark 9:50).        

 

CONCLUSION

 

As I began to study these verses this week, found the words of that little children’s song running through my mind...among other things the song says:

“Be careful little mouth what you say.  Be careful little mouth what you say. For the Father up above is looking down in love, so be careful little mouth what you say.

 

“Be careful little hands what you do...

 

“Be careful little feet where you go...

 

In this passage the Bible tells us that God is watching...look at the first part of v.12...”For the eyes of the Lord are upon the righteous...”

1 Peter 3:8-9 (Part 2)


I Peter 3:8-9 (Part 2)
(A Bible Study Led by Dr. Larry Reynolds)
September 5, 2013
 
In the New Testament there are a number of passages which provide us a summary of the life to which God calls His people.  Some examples are the Sermon on the Mount in Matthew 5-7, Romans 12:9-20, and Galatians 5:22-23.  In our last session we began looking at 1 Peter 3:8-9 which also contains such a summary. These verses contain a list of six characteristics that should be in the life of every Christian.  I pointed out in the last session the importance of the word “all” in the phrase “let all be” in 1 Peter 3:8.  That word means that the characteristics listed in these verses should be in the life of every Christian.  They are not descriptive of just a few super-spiritual or extra-committed Christians.  This is a description of how all of God’s people should be.  We have already explored the first three qualities on this list.  In our previous session we saw that every Christian should be--
--”harmonious” toward others...we’re to be of the same heart with our fellow believers...
--”sympathetic” toward others...we’re to feel what others feel, to see what others see...
--”brotherly” toward others...we’re to treat those around us as family...


In this session we will explore the final three qualities on this list.
 
Every Christian should be “kind-hearted
1.      There’s an interesting thing about the six qualities listed in I Peter 3:8-9...four of the words on this list are used nowhere else in the NT...and the word which the NASB translates “kind-hearted” and the KJV translates with the concept of “pity” is used only one other time in Scripture...one commentator points out that “Peter has carefully and artistically selected incredibly meaningful, albeit rare, words [with which] to challenge us.” [Sermon-”High 5" from web site]
2.      “Kind-hearted” means to be affectionately sensitive toward others...means to be quick to feel compassion and mercy...and it means being slow to feel impatience and anger…
3.      This is a key quality that is stressed as over and over again in Scripture.  Proverbs 3:3-4 – “Do not let kindness and truth leave you.  Bind them about your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart.  So you will find favor and good repute in the sight of God and man.”  Galatians 5:22 reminds us that one result of allowing God’s Spirit to control us in that we will be characterized by “kindness.”
4.        Cecil Rhodes was the British statesman and businessman who used his fortune to endow the world-famous Rhodes Scholarships ...Mr. Rhodes was a very formal man and was a stickler for correct dress...a young student who was invited to a dinner party in Rhode’s home...the student had to travel a great distance by train to attend the dinner, and when he arrived at the Rhodes estate his modest clothes were wrinkled and in disarray from the long journey...to his dismay and embarrassment the young man saw the other dinner guests elegantly dressed in full evening wear...after what seemed to the young student a long time, Mr. Rhodes appeared to great the student and the host was wearing a rather shabby, old blue suit... it wasn’t until later that the young student learned that earlier in the evening Mr. Rhodes had been dressed in evening clothes, but when he heard of the student’s dilemma he went back to his room and changed into the old suit to make the young man more comfortable... [Today in the Word, February, 1991, p.10]
5.      That’s what it means to be “kind-hearted”...it is being affectionately sensitive toward others...every Christian should be that way...
 
Every Christian should be “humble in spirit”


1.      The word translated “humble” is another of those words Peter used in this verse which in this precise form is found nowhere else in the NT...it’s made up of two other words...the first part of this word carries the idea of “low” or “lowly”...the second part is the basic word for “mind”...so literally, the word means to be “lowly in mind”...
2.      This the quality which makes it possible for a person to put others first...the quality which causes a person to defer graciously to others instead of insisting on his/her rights and privileges...the KJV translates the word “courteous” which I believe is an excellent translation of the word...
3.      While the world does not recognize this quality as a virtue, in the Bible humility of spirit is consistently portrayed as something to be desired...Jesus, Himself, was characterized by this quality...to a world much like ours, a world which glorified those who were assertive and strong-willed and a world which looked down on those who graciously deferred to others, Jesus came describing Himself as being “gentle and humble in heart...”[Matt.11:29]
4.      If we remember two basic things about life, it will be much easier for us to be “humble in spirit”...
--first, it is easier to be “humble in spirit” when we remember that God is the Creator and we are created beings...we didn’t make ourselves...we didn’t make our world...God made us...God placed us in this world...and we are completely dependent on God for everything...
--second, it is easier to be “humble in spirit” when we remember that our lives are measured by the standard of Christ...while we can always find someone with whom to compare ourselves which will make us feel prideful, when we remember the standard of measurement for our lives is Christ it is clear we all fail to measure up...
And because all people are God’s creation and because all people fail to measure up to God’s ideal, then it follows that not one of us has the right to look down upon or to Lord it over any other person...we each have every reason to be “humble in spirit”... 
5.      I remember reading something interesting and unique about mountain goats...when two goats meet on a narrow trail and have not way to get around each other, one goat will lie down and let the other goat jump over it, then they both continue safely on their way...


6.      That’s a good picture of how Christians should relate to other people... we’re to have the kind of spirit which graciously defers to others ...which instinctively seeks the best for others...that’s what it means to be “humble in spirit”...
 
Every Christian should not “return evil for evil, or insult for insult, but giving a blessing instead…”
1.      Of the six characteristics listed in these in I Peter 3:8-9, this one is most difficult cultivate...because natural tendency strike out in anger at those who mistreat or misuse us or those whom we love...it has been said that every person has the choice of responding to others in one of three ways—
--we can live by returning evil for good...that is how Satan chooses to respond to others...
--we can live by returning good for good and evil for evil...that is how most people choose to respond to others...
--we can live by returning good for good and good for evil...that is how Christians are to respond to others...[Wiersbe, p.80]
Dr. Jack MacGorman, one of my seminary professors, has written: “The world at its worst return evil for good.  The world at its best returns good for good and evil for evil.  But the follower of Jesus Christ is commanded to return good for evil.” [commentary on Romans]
2.      This part of God’s Word reminds us that the highest way of relating to others is the way God chooses--the way of returning good for evil...we are not to respond to those who harm us with an “eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth” type mentality...we are not to be driven by a desire to “get even” or to “strike back” ...that’s a principle which occurs over and over again in the NT...
--listen to what Jesus said in Matthew 5:38-45a...
--listen to some statements Paul wrote in Romans 12...
3.      Now, what are we to make of statements like that?....do they mean that if--
--someone breaks into our home in the middle of the night to steal our property that we should get up to welcome them and help them load their truck?...
--find someone trying to steal our car that we should offer them the keys to make their task easier?...
--someone takes one of our children or loved ones with intent of harming them that we should sit back and do nothing?...
Of course not!


4.      There’s a principle of biblical interpretation which I refer to as the “common sense” principle...Bible is practical book...don’t think in this book God instructs us do things which conflict with the common sense He gave us when He placed us in this world... common sense tells me these statements—
--don’t mean that to be a spiritual person, a committed Christian I must sit back and let anyone do anything he/she may desire do to me or my loved ones...
--however, do mean that I’m not to be dominated by a vengeful, get even type mentality...
5.      The principle being taught when someone harms us, when someone offends us, when someone treats us wrongly, our immediate response should not be to find way to strike back or get even with that person...our first response should be to find a way to be a blessing to that person...
--word translated “blessing” in I Peter 3:9 interesting word...word from which our word “eulogize” comes...it means to speak well of another...
--when deliver eulogy at funeral, don’t tell the bad things may know about a person...focus on the good things...
And Peter is saying here is that when someone harms you, don’t look for the bad in that person, look for the good...don’t strike back in anger...instead, speak well of the offending person...
6.      How can we do that?...how can we overcome our natural desire to strike back at those who harm us and bless them instead?...want to share with you three suggestions…
(1)  Remembering the way God has treated us helps us to bless those who harm us - God’s treatment of us is summarized by the word “grace.”  Grace means God gives us what we need, not what we deserve.  Remembering that God treats us with grace should help us treat others in the same way.  Because we are forgiven people, we must be forgiving people...understanding how much the Lord has forgiven us should create in us a predisposition to be forgiving toward others...our willingness to forgive others is sure sign that we have been forgiven...if we—
--have really experienced in our lives the forgiveness of God...
--know what means to have been cleansed from our sin...
--are recipients of the grace of God...


then will be forgiving toward others...there is no surer sign that we have been forgiven than our willingness to forgive...conversely, a harsh, unforgiving spirit is a sure sign that we do not know what  means to be forgiven by God...

 

(2)  Remembering that the evil and the insults of others often come out of a deep spiritual or emotional need in their lives helps us bless those who harm us - If we can overlook their behavior and focus on the need from which their behavior arises, we will find it easier to resist the temptation to strike back in anger.  The person who is rude, hurtful, inconsiderate toward you may be merely acting out deep hurts or insecurities or disappointments in his/her own live.  Viewing such a person through eyes of compassion will help us respond to them with gentleness and love instead of vengeance and anger.  Before you lash back at some person who offends you pause to ask yourself:

--What is happening or has happened in this person’s life to make him/her so angry?

--Is this person upset with me or is he/she upset with some situation about which I have no knowledge.?

 

(3)  Remembering that we are Christ’s representatives in the world helps us bless those who harm us - People are making judgments about the Lord we serve by what they see in us.  We are called to be living testimonies to God.  We are called to call other people to relationship with God.  We cannot do that when we return evil for evil and insult for insult.

                                           CONCLUSION

1.      What does a real Christian look like?  How can you tell if a person is a genuine Christian?

--you can’t tell by nationality because there are Christians from every nation...

--you can’t tell by race because there are Christians in every racial group...

--you can’t tell by age because there are there are Christians in every age group, from young children to senior adults...

--you can’t tell by economic status because there are Christians who are very wealthy and those who are very poor...

--you can’t tell by education because there are Christians with advanced degrees and there are Christians who have no formal education...

2.      But in I Peter 3:8-9 we are told how to identify those who are really followers of Christ...real Christians are—

--harmonious

--sympathetic

--brotherly

--kind-hearted

--humble in spirit

--forgiving

3.      May our lives be characterized by those qualities...